Resistance is Futile…Or Is It?
By Lorie Rosenberg
If you’ve ever seen the TV series, Star Trek The Next Generation, you’re familiar with the race of cybernetic aliens called “The Borg.” Their mission was to assimilate other species into their collective hive, declaring to their victims that, “Resistance is Futile!” Yet resistance provides the necessary motivation to propel you beyond indifference and complacency and motivate you to achieve greater levels of success.
Have you ever experienced difficulties in your business or personal life that have pushed you out of your comfort zone…and forced you to either take some type of action or sink from the consequences? You can become complacent in life when everything seems to be going well and the steadiness of it feels good. You know where you stand and you are content with where you are. Yet sometimes this complacency can hold you back from reaching your full potential and achieving the type of success of which you’re capable.
Swimming is a really good example of using resistance to propel you forward. Think about it. You float because of the resistance of the water against your body. As you start to swim, you reach out cupping your hand and pushing it through the water, alternating your stroke on each side of your body. The resistance of your hand against the water moves you forward. In addition, as you kick your feet, this action also propels you in the direction you want to go.
It’s similar to your life. The challenges you encounter in life provide the resistance. The choices you make become the opposing force that moves you forward in life. Without this resistance, you might remain in a constant steady state if that were possible. Unfortunately, it’s difficult to avoid the challenges, unless you lock yourself in your house and never come out!
Rather than become stressed or depressed when challenges happen, think of them as essential reminders that life is an evolving process. There are good times and bad. Yet it’s usually in the difficult times when we make the most progress, when we harness our inner courage, strength, and perseverance to move past adversity and achieve more than we’ve ever done before.
So once you know that resistance is not a futile process, what can you do to move past your challenges with greater ease?
Access Your Situation
When challenges strike, and they will, you need to step outside of your feelings of grief or despair and review the situation. How are the challenges impacting you? What do you need to do to move beyond the situation to bring more balance back into your life?
Sometimes it may be recreating the job or the relationship you have. You may not be able to overcome the situation, but you can alter your attitude about it. The only person you have control over is yourself, but if modifying your perspective won’t rectify the situation, it may be time to move on. That may include looking for a new position or moving out of a destructive relationship. The key is being objective about your situation and determining exactly what you need to do to rectify it.
Create Your Vision
Determine what it is that will make you happy again. Picture in your mind what you’d like your life to look like. What are you doing? Where do you live? Sometimes this vision doesn’t look like your current situation. If so, you may need to take steps to move you towards your vision and determine a time frame for getting there.
One option is to make adjustments to your current situation to get it in alignment with your goals and objectives. That’s where it’s important to get support from people around you to encourage you through your challenges. Sometimes it’s moving out of your current environment and taking a leap of faith that will move you in a whole new direction. There are inherent risks with this type of move, yet without risks, there are no rewards. Determine what you’re comfortable with and what will help you move closer to your vision.
Develop Specific Goals
Once you have created your vision, determine the goals that will help you fulfill this vision. These need to be specific goals that you’re able to accomplish with detailed steps to make them happen. Nothing can be achieved without developing goals and actively working towards them until completion.
Just be careful. If your goals are too cumbersome, you’ll never be able to accomplish them. The weight of the effort will be too much for you and you’ll fail miserably. And you don’t want to do that. That’s why you need to be specific about what you want to achieve and how you’re going to make that happen every single day.
Skills and Resource Assessment
After you’ve determined your goals, decide if you need any specific skills or resources to ensure you can effectively complete your goals. Do you need to go back to college or get any specific training to help you achieve your goals? If so, what do you need to do to make that happen? Do you need any specific financial resources or help from others to ensure you can make your goal a reality? It’s important to assess everything you need as you work towards achieving your goals.
Time Frame for Completion
Without a deadline, there’s no real incentive to complete your goals in a timely fashion. I know people who have had every intention of working on a particular goal, but for one reason or another it just never seemed to happen. That’s why it’s a good idea to create a timeline for your goals with step-by-step actions and deadlines for completion. You can always push out a date, but be sure you’re doing it for the right reasons, and not to postpone the real work that needs to be done.
What’s Your Incentive?
Adversity is the resistance that challenges us to create a better life. It takes us out of our comfort zone and provides the sink or swim motivation to move us forward. Some people choose to sink and become depressed about their situation and remain there for days, years, and sometime lifetimes. Hopefully that’s not an option for you. Instead, you want to get into fighting mode and embrace the attitude that nothing like this is ever going to keep you down.
Beyond that, it’s important to understand your motivation for moving forward. Do you want to move past depression? Do you want to create a better life for yourself and your family? Do you want to be happy and in charge of your life?
Even in the fictional show featuring the “Borg,” resistance wasn’t futile. In the end the Star Trek characters resisted the Borg and defeated them. You too, can use the challenges in your life as the resistance you need to create a brighter, more rewarding future.
It’s Time to Go Create You!
No matter where you are, you have the potential for success. You have everything you need within you to reach your full potential…to live a life of significance and to fulfill your goals and dreams. There’s nothing that can hold you back if you know what it is you want to achieve, have a plan with specific steps to move you in the right direction, and the drive and motivation to see it through to completion. Isn’t it time to Go Create You!
Lorie Rosenberg. speaker, author and coach, works with individuals on the "spiritual side" of business and life...to gain the discipline and motivation to achieve personal growth and business success. Get free marketing tips, tools, and tactics at www.BusinessOwnerSurvivalKit.com. For more information on Lorie's speaking and coaching programs, contact us at 800-260-0662, or e-mail us at firstname.lastname@example.org