Step Back on the Curb
By Lorie Rosenberg
Ron and I had the opportunity to visit a really good friend in Tucson, AZ, during a trip to Scottsdale, AZ, where Ron presented a program called, Double Your Memory in 90 Minutes, at the WSCA Cooperative Development Conference.
Since our kids are no longer at home, I get to travel with Ron when he is presenting at some great locations, and his program was at a very beautiful hotel called the FireSky Resort & Spa in Scottsdale, AZ.
What I enjoy so much about traveling and visiting people is that you always learn something new. Ron and I were sitting with our friend in front of a roaring fire we had made in an outside fireplace at our friend’s new home. It was one of the coldest nights on record in Tucson and we were huddled in front of the fireplace drinking wine and talking about all sorts of things.
I mentioned to our friend some concerns we were having with our son (he had just turned 25 that day) and I asked her what she thought about it. After listening intently, her response was, “You need to step back on the curb.” Now we had consumed a few glasses of wine so I had to ask her just what she meant. She said, “It’s his life and his karma. You need to let him make his own way. There’s not much you can do about it…basically you need to step back and let him make his own decisions and deal with the consequences.”
I knew in my heart that she was right, but it’s difficult to step back when you want to influence an issue, one that is really out of your control.
For me, this has been a difficult lesson to learn. In business, as well as in your personal life, there are areas over which you have influence. There are also others that you have little control over. The difficult part is having the wisdom to know the difference between the two.
As you move into the holiday season, understand what issues you have an influence over and those which are out of your control. Whether you celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah or Kwanza, there are stresses you put on yourself to carry out the many holiday traditions you have created for you and your family. And for many of you who have suffered financially or personally during the year, this can add even more stress to your situation.
So, this year, when the holiday season starts becoming a bit too overwhelming, just “step back on the curb.” Understand that you can’t control the kids, the friends, the family, or the holiday. What you can control is your ability to enjoy them.
Have a Wonderful Holiday Season!